Anne, I want to commend you on your restraint to prompt /prod Mr. J to continue his project in bite sized pieces. I hear your inner banshee as i read your post, because I could feel it welling up in me too. At the same time I feel the heartbreak of it all. Sending you big hugs and all of my extra patience to help try and fill your reserves as your journey with Mr. J and his assignment continue. Holding space for you.
You are making ingenious choices Anne. And I’m applauding from afar. ( Your banshee may call me anytime to wail. I love and understand her)
Just as we do with adolescents when they are learning how to learn, we get better at asking questions, pausing, and allowing results to happen (as long as they are not dangerous).
I love that you’ve ceased jumping in for the assist. While it might well have been your role when you and Mr J were on equal footing, it no longer is.
Walk gently with the loss of your old role, my friend. Walk gently… and when you need, let the banshee wail.
Reading and cringing and here with you, Anne. I guess the homework is proving the points no one wants proven. Ouch. This is where there needs to be support for you from M or other trained staff (empathy sigh carers need care too!) ...Bravo on not correcting or helping J, although it must be frustrating and nails-on-board painful and heartsink painful.
Sending over a big plate of nachos, cheese, jalapeños and ice-cold margaritas to pour it all out...and big hugs.
Keeping quiet is a skill at which I do not excel, but you've demonstrated how important it is when allowing medical professionals to see what they need to see. And you're right, this is Mr. J's choice. Allowing him to make what choices he still can is an act of love, whether it feels that way or not right now. ❤️
I’m not particularly good at keeping quiet, either, Pam. But you are right. It is important to let him make the choices he can, and live with the consequences when just, quite frankly, can’t.
I applaud your discipline in keeping quiet and not making this into your project. Reading along, that feels both hard and vital. How are you holding up?
Anne, I want to commend you on your restraint to prompt /prod Mr. J to continue his project in bite sized pieces. I hear your inner banshee as i read your post, because I could feel it welling up in me too. At the same time I feel the heartbreak of it all. Sending you big hugs and all of my extra patience to help try and fill your reserves as your journey with Mr. J and his assignment continue. Holding space for you.
thank you, Lisa. some days I feel really good at this and other days completely out of my league. It feels good to have support.
You are making ingenious choices Anne. And I’m applauding from afar. ( Your banshee may call me anytime to wail. I love and understand her)
Just as we do with adolescents when they are learning how to learn, we get better at asking questions, pausing, and allowing results to happen (as long as they are not dangerous).
I love that you’ve ceased jumping in for the assist. While it might well have been your role when you and Mr J were on equal footing, it no longer is.
Walk gently with the loss of your old role, my friend. Walk gently… and when you need, let the banshee wail.
Thank you, Teyani. I appreciate your support. I know you know this isn’t an easy path. Staying silent is my current challenge.
I can't imagine your frustration, but kudos for holding your tongue.
Thank you, Nancy. I am bobbing in my own emotion ocean over here, and the winds change without notice. I’m doing my best!
Reading and cringing and here with you, Anne. I guess the homework is proving the points no one wants proven. Ouch. This is where there needs to be support for you from M or other trained staff (empathy sigh carers need care too!) ...Bravo on not correcting or helping J, although it must be frustrating and nails-on-board painful and heartsink painful.
Sending over a big plate of nachos, cheese, jalapeños and ice-cold margaritas to pour it all out...and big hugs.
Keeping quiet is a skill at which I do not excel, but you've demonstrated how important it is when allowing medical professionals to see what they need to see. And you're right, this is Mr. J's choice. Allowing him to make what choices he still can is an act of love, whether it feels that way or not right now. ❤️
I’m not particularly good at keeping quiet, either, Pam. But you are right. It is important to let him make the choices he can, and live with the consequences when just, quite frankly, can’t.
Aw, Pam, that last sentence is SO true, and speaks to so many things in my caregiving experience.
I applaud your discipline in keeping quiet and not making this into your project. Reading along, that feels both hard and vital. How are you holding up?
thank you, Mary. The hurt of this particular situation has dulled with time. But it was really hard when I was doing it. I appreciate your support.